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06 March 2009 @ 12:12 pm
Hax of the Day  
When people become adults, they are, of course, responsible for their own behavior.  But if you look closely at someone who behaves badly, often you'll see explanations fall into place.  Say, someone who's too emotionally stunted to connect that she's doing exactly what her parents did to her.  Or, someone who's so afraid -- of losing people, of being wrong, of his own shadow -- that he barrels through life insisting on having everything his way, as if that will somehow prevent scary things from happening.  The most despicably selfish people are often, upon close inspection, feral -- they're consumed by self-preservation, and don't have the courage to take the emotional risks that are the hallmark of civilized behavior.

Giving is a risk.  Loving is a risk.  Kindness is a risk.  All demand that we drop our defenses; all allow the recipients of these gifts the opportunity to hurt us.
 
 
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Magical Truthsaying Bastard Shadesongshadesong on March 6th, 2009 05:20 pm (UTC)
Who said this? Can I quote it?
Wiseacreewin on March 6th, 2009 05:27 pm (UTC)
Carolyn Hax did in her live chat yesterday, in the Washington Post website. I'm sure the quoting is fine! This isn't her published column.
Becky: bsg-laurapeaceladybird97 on March 6th, 2009 05:36 pm (UTC)
Carolyn Hax is AMAZING. Thanks to your recommendations, I've started reading her daily column. I love her advice and approach to things.
Wiseacreewin on March 6th, 2009 05:38 pm (UTC)
I love how she can take something so difficult and drill it down to something so much simpler. :)
some blockheaded bracegirdle from hardbottle: hp - morsmordrenotemily on March 7th, 2009 07:57 pm (UTC)
have I mentioned that I love you for introducing me to her?
Wiseacreewin on March 8th, 2009 04:41 am (UTC)
Aw, it was no problem. :)
Hostes alienigeni me abduxerunt. Qui annus est?: kheffreyja on March 9th, 2009 10:17 am (UTC)
"feral." i like that. it's how i feel much of the time, at least.