This is not just about the phone, and it is not just about dating relationships:
Midwest: Seriously, is it SO hard for people to call someone they're dating??! I would worry less about not seeing him and more about the fact he can't seem to even ring you to say good night for 1.5 minutes before bed. EVERYONE has 1.5 minutes before bed.
Carolyn Hax: I know it sounds ridiculous, but yes, for some people, it is SO hard. We are not all the same person with the same thoughts, tolerances, comfort zones, priorities, appreciation for gestures, and habits or modes of expression. Some people live by the 1.5 minute call. Some people hate the phone. Some people would be happy to place a 1.5 min call, but know the recipient is incapable of hanging up after just 1.5 min. Some people think they're going to call but want to unwind for 1.5 min first in front of the TV, and then fall asleep in front of Law & Order.
Some people just operate on trust that their feelings are enough, and that means not having to punch an affection clock every day.
This is why compatibility is so important. When it's not there, you have two choices: have the strength to accept someone's differences as part of the deal, or bang your head against the wall wondering why s/he isn't more like you.
"Some people would be happy to place a 1.5 min call, but know the recipient is incapable of hanging up after just 1.5 min." Can I get an amen?